By blaming others, you invite others to do the same, and get others to get into their boxes pointing fingers and finding faults. They see themselves as the center of the world and view others as objects, whose needs are secondary and less legitimate than their own.
Terry Warnera U. The overarching message is that we should not worry about changing others or even ourselves! I do not have any affiliation with The Arbinger Institute; I just enjoyed the book. Basically, self-betrayal results from not being true to what you [hopefully] know is the right thing to do.
The page book is easy to read; it is written in a simple prose like a novel. For that reason, getAbstract.